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One Way to Meet the Man of Your Dreams

During a recent conversation with a couple of associates concerning relationships, I discovered an interesting point to meeting the man of your dreams.One of the ladies involved in the dialogue is in her late 20’s (Jeanne) and the other young lady is in her early 50’s (Cynthia).Jeanne is recently engaged to someone she describes as a wonderful and loving man who she thought she would never meet while, Cynthia is newly married to the man of her dreams.Given the fact that I was the only one single in the bunch I was provoked to ask the question, how did you both meet these great guys?Ironically, they both met the loves of their lives through good friends!
Cynthia shared that given the fact that your close friends really know you as a person and perhaps you have shared with them the downs of previous relationships that went sour that they know you best and are better equip to recognize the perfect guy for you.Therefore, it is within reason to believe that it is safe to let our close frien…

How to Find You

Okay let’s be honest….no one will ever know, have you ever wished you had features and/or qualities like someone else.I have, several times.My first experience with this desire was around six or seven years old.At such an early age, I found myself wanting to be more like my mother.I am from a single family home in which my mother was the sole bread winner and I knew early on that my quality of life depended on her.As a result, I always paid close attention to my mother’s work ethics, personal drives and ambitions.Witnessing my mother handle her responsibilities so well in the 70’s made her my hero; therefore I wanted so much to echo her in various areas.I wanted to look like her; she is what we define as light-skinned, and physically framed very well.She was able to speak her mind freely with eloquence and never allowed people to run over her.She was awesome in my opinion.But I soon realized that I didn’t look like her.I am dark-skinned, full-figured, and beautiful I might add.Therefo…

Now Let's Talk Steel Magnolias

As I expected “Steel Magnolias” was wonderfully written and well preformed.The cast worked great together and their acting capabilities complimented each other without prejudice.The revised script gave a warm feeling to what a southern African –American family would exemplify with regards to love, family bond, and friendship.Although, there were many messages for us to gain from, the one in particular that I wanted to make mention of is acceptance!
Understanding that we all are imperfect beings should lead us to the awareness that we all make mistakes in various areas of life, relationship and sisterhood.It was quite evident that all of the ladies suffered some type of life disappointment and each one dealt with it in their own way.Nevertheless, each of them knew the other’s struggle and accepted their friend just as she was while allowing room for growth.I would love to hear what message you gathered from the film….don’t be shy…communicating is good for the SOUL!
P.S. If you had to cho…

Steel Magnolias

I often ask myself is there a need for Sister’s Expressions and I have been reminded that YES is the answer!Here recently the entertainment media has been bombarded with the latest story concerning Nikki Minaj and Mariah Carey.Again, the image of black women is being portrayed in a negative manner.I am outraged with all of the naming calling, fighting, and just plain ignorance that those who are representing black America via multi-media within the entertainment industry.As I am reminded of how hard previous generations worked to improve black image in America, I am almost brought to tears to see this current generation destroying it with little hope of recovery.However, the saddest point to all of this is our desire to watch ourselves being misrepresented.We rush home weekly to tuned into all the House Wives shows, R & B Divas, Basketball Wives, etc., without considering the message that we are sending to the world.Nevertheless, there are many positive black women out there, Chie…

Women Who Cheat

As a result of divorce and infidelity, we have seen the effects that broken marriages have caused our children as well as society as a whole.The increase of divorce is influenced by various reasons, one in particular is infidelity.Due to technology being unfaithful to one’s spouse is made easy and quick.With dating web pages and cell phones at our finger tips, email addresses, etc., we are bombarded with temptation constantly.In addition, the influx of acceptability regarding disloyalty has fueled this situation to a fiery disaster.And within this catastrophe of infidelity are the women who cheat?
Many have voice their opinions about the reasons why men go outside their main relationships.The oldest reason regarding our male counter-parts betrayal is the CAT.But what drives women to join this rat race?Although, there are several reasons, I believe that one meticulous motive is the lack of affection!As women a lot of us grew up with the notion that we should be treated like princesses, …

Breast Cancer Awareness

Today is the first day of BREAST CANCER awareness month.Sister’s Expression would like to remember all those who fought a good fight and those who loved them.I am sure they will forever live on in our memories and dreams.SE is sending special love to Sara Harper-Chatmon and Deirdre Buckles-Alford as they celebrate the lives and legacies of their mothers.We would also like to remember their mothers for raising such incredible women that I am blessed to have met.In addition, please take the time to add any other people you would like remembered during this month! P.S. Remind someone that self-examinations can save their life!
Love,
Mandy

My Husband vs. My Girl

Having been married for eight years, I can still remember the day my ex-husband proposed to me.It was a Sunday afternoon at church and I was surrounded by friends and family.Given the fact that my husband to be was the pastor of the church, the proposal was a day that we all were destined to remember.I was so thrilled to tell my best girlfriends the big news…..I’M GETTING MARRIED!I’m sure we all can agree that that’s some of the most exciting news to share with your GIRLS.Although, it is a magical time in a woman’s life, several changes come along with the news.Having a man in your life takes up a lot of your free time leaving us to deal with one topic in particular; how do we juggle our social life now that we are married?Do we involve more married couples into our social lives as a couple or should we continue to intermingle with our single girlfriends the majority of the time as though nothing has changed?And how do we handle bringing and assisting our husbands into accepting our G…

A Circle of Lessons

Within the last couple of years, I have joined a circle of friends that are interesting to say the least.This wonderful group of friends includes men and women and for many of them they have known each other for twenty plus years.It falls within reason to say that they have all experienced trials and tribulations in their personal lives as well as issues amongst each other.Given the fact that there are more men within this circle often times these disagreements are overlooked and the friendships move on and continue to strive.Nevertheless, I feel as though some of the sisters are less capable of doing the same thing.I have discerned some feelings of low self-esteem, or a feeling of being inadequate. Often times those of us who are wrestling with such issues, make it uncomfortable and irritating for the others who are around them, which is totally uncalled for, taking the time to work on ourselves as individuals would lead to much greater sister-sister relationships.After knowing these…

Remembering 911

Sister’s Expression would like to send out condolences to all the survivors of 911 (September 11, 2001) and to the family members of those who lost their lives.Indeed, this tragedy will never be forgotten by Americans.And although, words can never replace the Americans we lost on that day, it is important that we NEVER forget the ultimate sacrifice that they rendered without having a choice.
The Sister’s

Brutal Truths

During a recent conversation with a friend I realized one of my personality traits; I can sometimes be brutally honest!During our dialogue, she shared with me that her reason for reaching out to me was because she knew I could be counted on to tell it like it is! And although, I appreciated the call from my friend, what I could appreciate even more is her ability to receive what I had to say.There’s nothing more irritating in the area of SISTERHOOD than having a sister ask for the truth and she not be able to cope with your response.And because of that many friendships between women have been lost.
So let’s talk ladies…. Recently, I have allowed a new friend in my circle and the tables have turned.I now find myself on the receiving end of her brutal truths.Now in all honesty, I’ll be the first to admit, it is a little easier when you are in the position of giving advice.Nevertheless, being the receiver forced me to deal with some emotions that encouraged me to allow these experiences w…

Michelle Obama vs. The Reality TV Woman

Growing up in the 70's in Atlanta, GA as a black female for me was interesting and fulfilling to say the least.  During this era black women faced challenges and responded with victory through dedication and perseverance.  The stigma that followed them was that of class, intertwined with strength and high moral standings.  Sisters made their mark in the world by means of education with high regards to upholding their own identities.  Moving on with the same spirit of the civil rights movement, black women embraced themselves in the area of hair, fashion and freedom of speech.  They fought their way in America's business arenas and worked along their white counterparts producing double the amount of work with less pay.  Nevertheless, in the eyesight of a young black girl saw something that I valued and cherished.  Those concealed messages cultivated and shaped my womanhood.  In addition, my goals were influenced and my path of life was created!

As I watched Michelle Obama like…

Never Judge A Book or a Man by the Cover

Many times as adults we find ourselves in compromising and unhealthy relationships due to own insecurities.  Most of these uncertainties come from our childhood and some stem from previous relationships.  Nevertheless, we are faced with discovering ways and strategies to change our circumstances.  In the quest to find a healthy place for myself I discovered some things that made me fall victim to the ill will of some of the men who have crossed my path.  I also became aware of several ways to combat these types of situations from repeating themselves.  Therefore, I am willing to share to perhaps to help someone else.

As it relates to ending up on the wrong side of love I learned that I suffered from the need to belong to someone at any cost.  In addition, my fear of being alone clouded my ability to use common sense and miss red flags that were clearly visible and detectable.  Therefore, as I yearned to be healed from these types of poisonous relationships I was faced to accept my own …