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My Husband vs. My Girl

Having been married for eight years, I can still remember the day my ex-husband proposed to me.It was a Sunday afternoon at church and I was surrounded by friends and family.Given the fact that my husband to be was the pastor of the church, the proposal was a day that we all were destined to remember.I was so thrilled to tell my best girlfriends the big news…..I’M GETTING MARRIED!I’m sure we all can agree that that’s some of the most exciting news to share with your GIRLS.Although, it is a magical time in a woman’s life, several changes come along with the news.Having a man in your life takes up a lot of your free time leaving us to deal with one topic in particular; how do we juggle our social life now that we are married?Do we involve more married couples into our social lives as a couple or should we continue to intermingle with our single girlfriends the majority of the time as though nothing has changed?And how do we handle bringing and assisting our husbands into accepting our G…

A Circle of Lessons

Within the last couple of years, I have joined a circle of friends that are interesting to say the least.This wonderful group of friends includes men and women and for many of them they have known each other for twenty plus years.It falls within reason to say that they have all experienced trials and tribulations in their personal lives as well as issues amongst each other.Given the fact that there are more men within this circle often times these disagreements are overlooked and the friendships move on and continue to strive.Nevertheless, I feel as though some of the sisters are less capable of doing the same thing.I have discerned some feelings of low self-esteem, or a feeling of being inadequate. Often times those of us who are wrestling with such issues, make it uncomfortable and irritating for the others who are around them, which is totally uncalled for, taking the time to work on ourselves as individuals would lead to much greater sister-sister relationships.After knowing these…

Remembering 911

Sister’s Expression would like to send out condolences to all the survivors of 911 (September 11, 2001) and to the family members of those who lost their lives.Indeed, this tragedy will never be forgotten by Americans.And although, words can never replace the Americans we lost on that day, it is important that we NEVER forget the ultimate sacrifice that they rendered without having a choice.
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Brutal Truths

During a recent conversation with a friend I realized one of my personality traits; I can sometimes be brutally honest!During our dialogue, she shared with me that her reason for reaching out to me was because she knew I could be counted on to tell it like it is! And although, I appreciated the call from my friend, what I could appreciate even more is her ability to receive what I had to say.There’s nothing more irritating in the area of SISTERHOOD than having a sister ask for the truth and she not be able to cope with your response.And because of that many friendships between women have been lost.
So let’s talk ladies…. Recently, I have allowed a new friend in my circle and the tables have turned.I now find myself on the receiving end of her brutal truths.Now in all honesty, I’ll be the first to admit, it is a little easier when you are in the position of giving advice.Nevertheless, being the receiver forced me to deal with some emotions that encouraged me to allow these experiences w…

Michelle Obama vs. The Reality TV Woman

Growing up in the 70's in Atlanta, GA as a black female for me was interesting and fulfilling to say the least.  During this era black women faced challenges and responded with victory through dedication and perseverance.  The stigma that followed them was that of class, intertwined with strength and high moral standings.  Sisters made their mark in the world by means of education with high regards to upholding their own identities.  Moving on with the same spirit of the civil rights movement, black women embraced themselves in the area of hair, fashion and freedom of speech.  They fought their way in America's business arenas and worked along their white counterparts producing double the amount of work with less pay.  Nevertheless, in the eyesight of a young black girl saw something that I valued and cherished.  Those concealed messages cultivated and shaped my womanhood.  In addition, my goals were influenced and my path of life was created!

As I watched Michelle Obama like…

Never Judge A Book or a Man by the Cover

Many times as adults we find ourselves in compromising and unhealthy relationships due to own insecurities.  Most of these uncertainties come from our childhood and some stem from previous relationships.  Nevertheless, we are faced with discovering ways and strategies to change our circumstances.  In the quest to find a healthy place for myself I discovered some things that made me fall victim to the ill will of some of the men who have crossed my path.  I also became aware of several ways to combat these types of situations from repeating themselves.  Therefore, I am willing to share to perhaps to help someone else.

As it relates to ending up on the wrong side of love I learned that I suffered from the need to belong to someone at any cost.  In addition, my fear of being alone clouded my ability to use common sense and miss red flags that were clearly visible and detectable.  Therefore, as I yearned to be healed from these types of poisonous relationships I was faced to accept my own …