"Be more concerned with your character than your reputation. Your character is what you REALLY are, while your reputation is MERELY what others think you are!" -John Wooden
Thursday, October 18, 2012
Sunday, October 14, 2012
Okay let’s be honest….no one will ever know, have you ever wished you had features and/or qualities like someone else. I have, several times. My first experience with this desire was around six or seven years old. At such an early age, I found myself wanting to be more like my mother. I am from a single family home in which my mother was the sole bread winner and I knew early on that my quality of life depended on her. As a result, I always paid close attention to my mother’s work ethics, personal drives and ambitions. Witnessing my mother handle her responsibilities so well in the 70’s made her my hero; therefore I wanted so much to echo her in various areas. I wanted to look like her; she is what we define as light-skinned, and physically framed very well. She was able to speak her mind freely with eloquence and never allowed people to run over her. She was awesome in my opinion. But I soon realized that I didn’t look like her. I am dark-skinned, full-figured, and beautiful I might add. Therefore, I had to spend many years discovering myself. So, let’s talk about how to find ourselves!
Allow me to start by saying that I think it is okay to admire certain attributes and characteristics of others. I would even go so far as to confirm that it is within reason to adopt certain traits from others. Sometimes we gain helpful points that we take on as our own in order to build our character, nevertheless it is very crucial that we embrace who we are as individuals, which leads to a better stay here on earth. In my personal quest to find me, I focused on what brought out passion from within; I learned what caused me to feel hurt, what caused me to smile, how I influenced others, and then I learned to LOVE it all. I now embrace my personal make-up and who I am. All the love and understanding that I have for myself allows me to love others for their differences and how they were developed and fashioned for life. Nevertheless, in order to capture this love for myself and maintain it, I’ve learned that I must reflect on my life daily. Therefore, I spend moments throughout the day identifying attributes regarding my personality. In all honesty and fairness, I must admit there are times when I do not enjoy going through this process out of fear of becoming aware of things I do not like about myself. But, I became skilled at being committed to this course because the reward is so POWERFUL and fulfilling. Life can be so enjoyable and purposed when we pledge ourselves to the purpose of our existence! Therefore, I hope and pray that all of you who read this post will make a personal pledge to becoming more familiar with YOURSELF and what makes you, YOU!
Tuesday, October 9, 2012
As I expected “Steel Magnolias” was wonderfully written and well preformed. The cast worked great together and their acting capabilities complimented each other without prejudice. The revised script gave a warm feeling to what a southern African –American family would exemplify with regards to love, family bond, and friendship. Although, there were many messages for us to gain from, the one in particular that I wanted to make mention of is acceptance!
Understanding that we all are imperfect beings should lead us to the awareness that we all make mistakes in various areas of life, relationship and sisterhood. It was quite evident that all of the ladies suffered some type of life disappointment and each one dealt with it in their own way. Nevertheless, each of them knew the other’s struggle and accepted their friend just as she was while allowing room for growth. I would love to hear what message you gathered from the film….don’t be shy…communicating is good for the SOUL!
P.S. If you had to choose a character that illustrated you within your circle who would it be?
Friday, October 5, 2012
I often ask myself is there a need for Sister’s Expressions and I have been reminded that YES is the answer! Here recently the entertainment media has been bombarded with the latest story concerning Nikki Minaj and Mariah Carey. Again, the image of black women is being portrayed in a negative manner. I am outraged with all of the naming calling, fighting, and just plain ignorance that those who are representing black America via multi-media within the entertainment industry. As I am reminded of how hard previous generations worked to improve black image in America, I am almost brought to tears to see this current generation destroying it with little hope of recovery. However, the saddest point to all of this is our desire to watch ourselves being misrepresented. We rush home weekly to tuned into all the House Wives shows, R & B Divas, Basketball Wives, etc., without considering the message that we are sending to the world. Nevertheless, there are many positive black women out there, Chief Justice Leah Ward Sears, Michelle Obama, Oprah Winfrey, Maya Angelou, Alfre Woodard and many others in our local communities that we can learn, grow and build upon our reflection as a race of women. Therefore, I encourage all of us to rethink the message that we send daily! Yes, let’s show the world that we are not all angry, and confrontational. That we can get along and we do care for one another!
P.S. Don’t forget to watch Steel Magnolias, this Sunday, Oct.7th, on Lifetime at 9:00 Eastern Time. Although, it is a remake, I’m sure it will be refreshing to watch Sisters sharing and caring for each other!
Thursday, October 4, 2012
As a result of divorce and infidelity, we have seen the effects that broken marriages have caused our children as well as society as a whole. The increase of divorce is influenced by various reasons, one in particular is infidelity. Due to technology being unfaithful to one’s spouse is made easy and quick. With dating web pages and cell phones at our finger tips, email addresses, etc., we are bombarded with temptation constantly. In addition, the influx of acceptability regarding disloyalty has fueled this situation to a fiery disaster. And within this catastrophe of infidelity are the women who cheat?
Many have voice their opinions about the reasons why men go outside their main relationships. The oldest reason regarding our male counter-parts betrayal is the CAT. But what drives women to join this rat race? Although, there are several reasons, I believe that one meticulous motive is the lack of affection! As women a lot of us grew up with the notion that we should be treated like princesses, and although I would love to hold on to this childhood outlook, reality has led me to believe the contrary. Some of us have been involved with men who are not meeting our needs financially, sociably, or emotionally. In our efforts to get our needs met we are left to confront our spouses (lovers) who in turn say that we are nagging them. Nevertheless, out of frustration and disappointment some of us have found comfort in the arms of another. I do agree that this decision does lead to some type of satisfaction but only temporarily. Bringing another party into an already sticky circumstance can only lead to more confusion, in addition you could be possibly setting yourself up for more heartache. Therefore if you are feeling unfulfilled in your current relationship, I suggest that you fight hard for a resolution. If your significant other is not willing to work with you towards an agreeable declaration than be a SISTER who is able to resolve her own issues, for some that could mean cutting the ties. But no matter what by all means be respectful to yourself and the person who lives you affect by the decisions you make, here’s to loving relationships!
Monday, October 1, 2012
Today is the first day of BREAST CANCER awareness month. Sister’s Expression would like to remember all those who fought a good fight and those who loved them. I am sure they will forever live on in our memories and dreams. SE is sending special love to Sara Harper-Chatmon and Deirdre Buckles-Alford as they celebrate the lives and legacies of their mothers. We would also like to remember their mothers for raising such incredible women that I am blessed to have met. In addition, please take the time to add any other people you would like remembered during this month!
P.S. Remind someone that self-examinations can save their life!