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Real Friendships are Balancing and Relaxing

Given the fact that birthdays are very special to me, this past weekend was very exciting! It was time to celebrate one of my dear friends (Patrice Harrell) birthday.  During this time of her life's celebration, I witnessed friendships that are balancing and relaxing to say the least. I know you are wondering what I mean about balancing and relaxing.  Let me elaborate if you will. Experiencing balance within friendships consist of opportunities of being transparent,  unmasking, competition free, and growth developing moments.  As it relates to the term relaxing, simply put, opportunities to be less tense or anxious.

Therefore, as expected her birthday began with an evening of family, friends, food and music at her newly purchased home. Toasting, cheers, and bliss filled the atmosphere. The ambience was full of unconditional love and a strong presence of God's un-measuring favor in several areas including marriage and friendship.  As a result, the festivities called for a second day of observance, which impacted me to the point of writing this post. Although, the crowd was much smaller, the purpose was extremely life changing.  The term of "life changing" can sometimes be used lightly, however not in this situation!  Many of us see this phrase as impact filled, which leads to a time of self-evaluation.

Being apart of a small assimilation of women who have allowed their life experiences to revamp them into confident and purposes filled ladies who are focused on their own life's journey was indeed relaxing!  Many times we permit ourselves to be drawn into gatherings and friendships that brings us grief, low self-esteem, competition and a compromised being. These relationships usher us into arenas of life that God never intended for us to travel. Allow me to give you an example, the Old Testament reveals the experience that the children of Israel faced when they lost focus on God's promise. A journey that should have taken two weeks turned into a forty year excursion.  Nevertheless, we should frequently reevaluate our life's purpose and goals in order to make necessary changes that will lead us to the abundance life (Jer. 29:11) God intended for us to have! It is a waste of precious time to walk through life without being spiritually influenced and vice versa.

Moreover, I would like to thank Patrice Harrell, Kellye Bowens, Tameka Bouyer, and Vanessa Desir for being open, raw, and expressive this weekend. Patrice and Tameka you are anointed beyond what has been revealed. Kellye you embody loyalty and commitment regardless of how your life started and you will live to see the fullest of this spoken word. Vanessa you host the spirit of freedom, your strong desires will drive you into many choices, be watchful, equipped, and realistic. I'm dedicating this post to these special ladies and to all of those who are search of valuable friendships, don't settle!

Love Always,



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